Coaching Support
Let me walk with you toward healing.
I’m Bonny
Let’s walk together.
When a partner discovers pornography use or any other kind of sexual betrayal, her world explodes. I know because I’m a partner, too. I “get it!” Life will never quite look the same, but together we can navigate toward stability and help you establish where you want to be. Although every partner’s situation is different, there is a process toward healing that has common elements for all. I can help you see the steps and encourage you as you reach toward healing.
As a coach, I will be your cheerleader. We will work together to brainstorm ways to heal your raw heart and strengthen your spirit. Coaching encourages you to see into yourself to find your God given talents and strengths. It is hope-filled, motivational, and action driven. My ultimate desire is that you eventually call yourself a Strong Wife.
For those who remain married and are ready to restore an intimate relationship with your husband, I am also here to help. As you can see in my experience, I’ve been researching, writing, and speaking on healthy godly sexuality since 2012. Read more about this coaching aspect HERE.
My Value & Approach
I am a follower of Christ. My utmost desire is to emulate his character in all of my interactions. This does not mean I limit my coaching to Christians only. It does mean that I will treat everyone equally with the utmost respect and care. All of my coaching is undergirded with biblical principles.
Partners have an understandable response to the traumatic nature of discovery. That is why I look to the Multi-dimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM) to conceptualize what a partner is going through. MPTM incorporates recent research about the effects of sex-addiction-induced-trauma (SAIT). The responses of a partner to discovery are traumatic in nature, biologically, as well as, emotionally. Therefore, the first and most basic need is to establish safety and clarity in the confusion of the reality.
My Education
- APSATS certified partner coach (Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists, apsats.org.)
- ACC (ICF ethically credentialed coach)
- ERCEM trained (Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model)
- ADOH (small group facilitator training from a trauma perspective)
- BS Psychology: Christian Counseling, Liberty University
- Life Experience 500
My Experience
- I am a partner.
- have supported betrayed partners from discovery, through therapeutic full disclosure, and then relational repair.
- I have studied and taught on the theology of sexual intimacy and can inform my clients to what is godly and healthy when it comes to sexual intimacy.
- I lead a 9-week small group curriculum called, “Sexual Clarity for Christian Women: Reclaim Your Sexual Identity After Betrayal,” for wives seeking support and growth in this area.
- I speak about healthy godly sexuality on the podcast,
Sex Chat for Christian Wives (over 1M downloads). - I research and write about healthy godly sexuality on the
blog, OysterBed7.
I Work With Individuals, Couples, & Groups
Partner Coaching
Let's work together, decompressing and thinking about what is next. I can help you move from where you are to where you want to be. God will not let the pain destroy you or last forever.
Couples Coaching
After your heart starts to find stable healing, relational healing is next. I can help you and your husband develop communication tools that leave everyone feeling heard and understood.
Group Support
Oftentimes you feel all alone dealing with the enormity of the trauma. You are not alone. Join an army of strong wives who "get it" in virtual group sessions of support.
Contact Me
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